So the question is:
Why are you blogging?
I remember a year or so after Marvin died I wanted so desperately to talk to him about the kids. Sitting at the computer late one night I decided to write to him. I had tried to call him on his cell phone one day but someone actually answered!
Gave that one up pretty quick.
I wrote about how each child was coping with his death, their trials of being without him, how much and in what ways I missed him, and the void I felt that kept hemorrhaging life's breathes.
Those letters of sorrow slowly begin to transform into prayers. Prayers for help, comfort, guidance and gratitude for what went before.
I'm not sure in hind sight to whom the letters where actually addressed but one thing for sure, Marvin was not going to get a USPS first class letter in his mailbox.
I believe to the depths of my soul that there is an incredible place in heaven that awaits those that know that Jesus is our Savior above all others. And if I didn't know it before Marvin had a heart attack seven years before he died, I know it now. A near death experience gave him a peace that I wish he could tell each of you about.
He used to say,
"I don't know where you go when you don't believe in Jesus but I can tell you where you go when you do".
Looking back, I believe that I was given that experience to give me strength to cope with his death years later.
God's timing is perfect even if it does stink!
So back to the question at hand:
Why blog?
Frankly its cheaper than therapy and I would like to think I have come through these past 10 years having learned a little about not only myself but about surviving grief. Possibly kicking a little grief butt!
Sorrow, true sorrow, is like a wave that suddenly comes from behind to slap you down, pull you under and take your already shallow breath away. Then when you think that you have your footing again,
Whoa there's another!
That foundation you are standing on is the only thing you've got, so make sure it's a firm one and that you are squarely planted.
The miracles of life are still with us in hard times, only our focus has changed.
Fine tune your focus each day so that you might be able to breathe and receive what this life has to offer.
And most important!!!
Remember that grief is an expression that you have loved well!
Love and miss you Mitter
We are well!
Breathe and Receive
C